A Little Research

Recently I received some great answers to questions I had regarding the nature of the relationships between Masters and their property ... and I believe I learned some very important conclusions from a great many respondents.

1. Master isn't perfect ... and that's irrelevant. We all seem to believe we humans are inherently flawed. I find that these days, in the media and elsewhere, society seems increasingly to be intolerant of the mistakes of others. But slaves ignore flaws in our Master as detracting to our commitment to unconditional obedience and quality of service. Our Masters are "perfect" enough to be respected, honored loved, adored and obeyed, such that we see ourselves as His property. They are not "God" and that's just fine.

2. Because Master isn't perfect ... providing correction can be part of service. Masters use their slaves to help achieve their goals and grow in their wisdom, power and greatness. Yet who defines perfection and wisdom? Master does ... but not without his property's ideas and contributions ... that can only strengthen his power, strength and mastery.

3. Master's wisdom sets the tone on the correct world view as well as what's correct at home; but O/p relationships don't flourish when fundamentals aren't compatible in the beginning ... especially since earning and giving respect is an essential element of an O/p relationship. There will be differences in the way Masters and slaves think about everything. But with compatibility and respect, slaves can adapt habits and attitudes to strengthen His ownership ... as long as there is the bond of love and the desire to please and obey.

4. A slave's duty of proactive openness. The O/p relationship simplifies and clarifies the importance of a slave's openness and honesty as part of strengthening roles and bonds. This simple premise is often enhanced through ritual, habits and routines, and regular journaling.

5. Adoration, worship and love. We slaves know we can show this with ritual, journaling and devoted service and obedience. But as with relationships in general, the operative word for our bond is not necessarily worship ... but love is.

Being Objectified As a Goal

We submissive women strive to be beauty and attractive -- it's in our heart and our fiber. Sometimes it takes so much work and concentration! How can we find the energy and inner strength to achieve our dreams of our physical selves?

This means we need to be objectified. As submissive women we can see ourselves as, in part, "objects" as part of our being.

What does this mean? It recognizes that we are "thinking bodies." We can be helpful and supportive, nurturing and loving ... and also be an attractive addition -- indeed, an integral part -- to a man's home and world. We are intelligent ideally as we are helpful, useful, full of purpose with grace and elegance. To achieve this, we are not stupid. Our smarts are derived best in the context of what we offer in the context of being submissive women.

As "objectified," we can concentrate on and value ourselves and our attractiveness in terms of our usefulness and the beauty we can create and offer. Think of worship, adoration, attentiveness, service, the love of our men in terms of being objectified. I am reaching down into my heart to understand what that means ... find the honesty in recognizing our inner truth ... as living our lives as objectified. As treasured objects belonging to our men, the extension of this is that we derive and embellish wisdom and development and happiness as virtually as property to our "owners." This offers a powerful sense of belonging and self worth.

I've been thinking about the submissive female role of being objects and being objectified, in terms of the value of remaining still. Think of the fundamental pleasure of remaining motionless for a time, existing for the pleasure of the man of the house? We are a priceless thing of beauty -- not only to be gazed at and admired, but also an object providing pure erotic pleasure, nurturing and love. We can be beautiful at work in the home too.

This is a fantasy role, of course ... yet it is one we can bring to life each day -- with honesty and in recognizing our inner truth -- as beautiful, loving, helpful, valuable ... and happy ... females.

Understanding Traditional Male / Female Roles

I feel like "women's liberation" began as we began to see that work was both intellectually rewarding and way to care for ourselves, given men can’t always be relied upon to provide a reliable “economic home." At the same time, other women sought greater respect and recognition for their management of the family’s home life. All this happened background of great social and economic change throughout the world during that time. But let's also be honest, it's still more difficult for women and minorities to achieve success in the modern world today, in terms of pay, promotion and workplace respect.

But the “traditional male-female-family / male dominated household” has not lost its relevance either. This usually simply means that some women (not me) have a tremendous desire to have children, and the more traditional cultural model is best way to accomplish that. I think that's one very important reason why the “sperm banks” you referred to are so popular – it seems many people go to any length to have babies. Many women will give up their place in the career ladder in order to raise children, usually at great economic sacrifice. My mother and other women I know, the domestic child-rearing household eventually leads to the "empty nest" period, when aging women begin to feel unproductive, lonely and bored. Older children can provide a sort of support system in later life — but let's face it, in these economic times, older children as a support system is very unreliable.

The Submissive Wife Project was born in part from recognizing and respecting household relationships from a more traditional, more innate and inherently natural in women -- fundamental qualities we never forgot -- stemming from our desire to please and to care for others, particularly in managing the home. It also recognizes that when you love, respect and obey your husband unconditionally, he will become a better man and play his role as head of the household more effectively. When your man is respected and supported as a Master, his greatness and natural wisdom can flourish. I believe this can benefit men and women economically as well as providing more satisfying home life.

The concept of women as the property of men brings in an entirely enhanced and formalized psychological element to the traditional male-dominated / submissive female model, providing a greater level of structure, formality, defense and respect to the traditional roles. It gives women a greater spiritual, psychological, emotional and sexual foundation and "awareness" for their day-to-day behavior and approach to their place in the home with their Master. It also provides a rationale, framework for the Master to create rules, rituals and expectations for their women property. Both of these roles the male-dominated / submissive female dynamic, but requires more time and effort for both to support and protect and build on the traditional Man / woman domestic relationship.

I feel like "women's liberation" began as we began to see that work was both intellectually rewarding and way to care for ourselves, given men can’t always be relied upon to provide a reliable “economic home." At the same time, other women sought greater respect and recognition for their management of the family’s home life. All this happened background of great social and economic change throughout the world during that time. But let's also be honest, it's still more difficult for women and minorities to achieve success in the modern world today, in terms of pay, promotion and workplace respect.

But the “traditional male-female-family / male dominated household” has not lost its relevance either. This usually simply means that some women (not me) have a tremendous desire to have children, and the more traditional cultural model is best way to accomplish that. I think that's one very important reason why the “sperm banks” you referred to are so popular – it seems many people go to any length to have babies. Many women will give up their place in the career ladder in order to raise children, usually at great economic sacrifice. My mother and other women I know, the domestic child-rearing household eventually leads to the "empty nest" period, when aging women begin to feel unproductive, lonely and bored. Older children can provide a sort of support system in later life — but let's face it, in these economic times, older children as a support system is very unreliable.

The Submissive Wife Project was born in part from recognizing and respecting household relationships from a more traditional, more innate and inherently natural in women -- fundamental qualities we never forgot -- stemming from our desire to please and to care for others, particularly in managing the home. It also recognizes that when you love, respect and obey your husband unconditionally, he will become a better man and play his role as head of the household more effectively. When your man is respected and supported as a Master, his greatness and natural wisdom can flourish. I believe this can benefit men and women economically as well as providing more satisfying home life.

The concept of women as the property of men brings in an entirely enhanced and formalized psychological element to the traditional male-dominated / submissive female model, providing a greater level of structure, formality, defense and respect to the traditional roles. It gives women a greater spiritual, psychological, emotional and sexual foundation and "awareness" for their day-to-day behavior and approach to their place in the home with their Master. It also provides a rationale, framework for the Master to create rules, rituals and expectations for their women property. Both of these roles the male-dominated / submissive female dynamic, but requires more time and effort for both to support and protect and build on the traditional Man / woman domestic relationship.

The Submissive Woman's Life

A few years ago I was a member of an on-line submissive woman’s project. I think the project has since died, but I did learn a great deal while I was being mentoring there I was taught a lot about being female. The teachings were both traditional but also very novel … a return to a devotion to being desirable, approachable, aware, aroused and open … aware of, selfless and kindness to others … to find caring and love as the keys to finding a place of sanctity, serenity, purpose … embracing submission for the understanding, respect and support for the strong men in their lives. It was a really an amazing experience, but it was at the time a hard lifestyle to learn, since it meant making so many challenging personal changes to the way modern women have come to think and feel and to meet needs and goals.

It has since occurred to me that respecting and adoring your man (or your Master), and supporting the goals he sets for himself (some are latent, after all!!!) are mutually fulfilling! How can you improve today, to step toward your goal or dream? My purpose is to help find out what fits and to build the path for that goal … with attentiveness and devotion, respect and love.

My writings here are to return to that life ...